August 18, 2016

Positive Changes


Last week was back to school for us and the kick off of a new routine for me. For those of you that feared that I was hinting about not blogging any more, well that is in no way my plan! While spending a lot less time in front of a screen is a critical part of what I'm doing right now, I love this little corner of mine and can't imagine abandoning this space.


I spent the week before school started, trying to figure out what I wanted my days to look like. More and more I am realizing that I push myself too hard and don't give myself enough time for things I love. I started by making a list of things that are life giving and a list of things that are life draining. It probably won't shock any of you to know that while the life draining list was shorter, more of my time is spent on it. That has to change. I have to give myself permission to do things that give me joy if I am to be the best me I can be. That ever present to do list is NOT going anywhere. If I work night and day for a month there will still be stuff on that list. At the end of my life do I want to look back and say "I got everything done on my to do list"? No way! I want to say I laughed, I had fun, I was creative, I loved my family and friends well and I made a lovely home. Those are the things that are important to me.


Let's be sensible here. Things still need to get done and I am probably going to be the one to do them.  I am happiest when my house is relatively clean, errands still need to be run and I need to make exercise a priority. I don't know about you but, aside from yoga, exercise is not on my life giving list. However being in good health certainly is, so I know I need to make time for it.


It's only been two weeks but I am already feeling the shift. My new schedule looks something like this AM: exercise, cleaning, errands, house projects. PM: Choose something from the life giving list and do it. Without guilt. Period. I'm working out the kinks and still getting used to stopping my work at lunch time. So hard to do especially if there is still stuff on my to do list. I think of this as a practice and it will take me a little while to get it right. Today I stopped ironing before my basket was empty. It may sound silly but that was a big deal for me. I am a keep going until I'm finished kind of girl. Or I was. Now I guess I'm a keep going until lunch time and then do something fun kind of girl. I'll take that.


The biggest change I've made is that I have blocked off Wednesdays on my calendar for the next month. That is what I am calling my Sacred Day and I've already become fiercely protective of it. It is my day to spend as I wish with no obligations. Last week I spent the day cleaning and organizing my studio and redoing my inspiration board. This week I spent it finishing a book, writing and being creative. I'll share more about my Sacred Day soon.


I'm already feeling less stressed from making these positive changes. I'm keeping an open mind and a flexible spirit about all of it. I know this is all part of my growing need for simplicity. I'm feeling less overwhelmed with this new schedule and so happy to be able to find time for more of life's small pleasures.

22 comments:

  1. What a great idea a Sacred Day..hmm, I think I'll be with you on that one. Not on Wednesdays though as the little ones are free on those afternoons. Have to think out a Master Plan now, thx! Lol! X (oh, and can you pls come over and redo my house???!!)

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  2. I love this plan of yours!! What a fabulous new schedule! Enjoy!

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  3. You are such a smart and well balanced person!! And I adore your inspiration board!!! I'm a little envious that you have the freedom to stop working at noon to do things that you like....I guess that won't happen for me until I retire, drat! Until then, I will have to live vicariously through you! :)

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    1. It is a luxury to be sure but the reality is that the break only goes till 3 when I have to do the carpool run and then it's dinner and clean up and whatever else needs to be done! I hope to get better at utilizing those 3 hours though! I'm finding it's takins quite a lot of discipline to not keep working!!

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  4. I love this! I am going to copy some of those ideas. Also, would you share which planner you have? Thanks

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    1. My planner is the Day Designer by Whitmey English and I adore it! This is my second one and I'll be ordering a new one for 2017 soon!

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  5. Love this post Jen. I am working (there is some irony in that, ha!) toward my life looking more like that. I was so far behind in things around the house that I am giving myself the month of August to clean and organize but come September I am going to start living the kind of life I envisioned when I stopped working outside the home four years ago. Looking forward to seeing what you are working on in your studio. Love the inpsiration board! Patty

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  6. You always express yourself well and you tackled so much in this short post. That's great because I never once lost interest or felt it was redundant. I admire what you are doing and really need to incorporate many of your ideas into my own life. I'm a bit scattered and carry around a burden that I never seem to do enough. And when I do have free time, I'm exhausted and have no desire to work on the creative things I so love.

    I would love to hear more about your Sacred Day. You are so much an inspiration to me, and many others I'm sure!

    Jane

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  7. Taking time for yourself is so important. I've learned that over the years. Love your inspiration board. Deb

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  8. What I love most about retirement is the leisure to do exactly what I want. And now that I can no longer hold a tennis racket, I had to come up with something new for exercise. I have taken up Zumba (3 days a week) and loving it.

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  9. Balance is what it is all about Jen. I need to put more of it in my schedule and hopefully days won't be so frazzled. Have a beautiful weekend!

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  10. This all sounds wonderful, especially the Sacred Day. I know I need to do this for myself, especially since our adult son has moved back home and I'm feeling a bit cramped and stressed out, but I'm so easily sidetracked by what needs to be done in the house! I find it very hard to stay on-task, especially when it comes to something pleasurable, just for me. I do escape to weekly yoga classes, at least. Maybe you can share more of your ideas on how to let go of everything and have this one day all to yourself.

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    1. I hope to share more as I figure it all out, Melanie!

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  11. I love the idea of a sacred day! My husband works from home so he is always around. In order for me to get a sacred day, I would have to put it on his schedule too lol. I love that your are taking afternoons for the life giving list!

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  12. Hmm, I love the sound of all of this. I let too much time pass doing mundane things and not enough time doing creative soul-feeding things. Your inspiration board is wonderful and the Sacred Day sounds like something we all need.

    Your photos are always so pretty. :)

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  13. I agree, we all need at least one day a week to ourselves! You have called it your "sacred day", I always called my day off-my fun day! I can hardly wait to hear more about what you do!

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  14. I love what you've shared here Jen. Life has been so full since April that I've gotten very little creative time since then and I can feel it. Thinking through how to make time for creative pursuits again in the midst of a new homeschool year and our precious toddler! ;) Love hearing what's working for you & I'm excited to hear more about your sacred day!

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  15. Love the idea of a sacred day and I am going to work towards having this for myself with no guilt or pressure from other people to do what they want or think I should be doing, life really is too short and I want to take time for things that I enjoy.

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  16. Such a wonderful post....so lovely to read about your life affirming new plans. Love your blog and your beautiful photos.
    Helen xox

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  17. Love the way you are choosing to live ♥

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  18. Wednesday is "my day" too oh kindred soul!! I claimed that day this year - so far it has worked with few exceptions. And it has helped to balance things within greatly. Your life is precious and you are living it beautifully... You are always so inspiring my friend. Thank you for being you and for sharing your life with us. Love you dearly.

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  19. Just found your blog and am enjoying some posts. I LOVE what you said about the to do list never being complete. That is something I struggle with. I've always felt that I have to get everything done: every project, errand, etc. I need to learn to let go and not worry that everything isn't marked off. Do what I can and need to and there is always tomorrow....or next week. Life isn't about just our to do lists!

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