June 17, 2014

In Honor of Father's Day


Here are a few words we don't like a bit in our house: step, half or real. We are 100% family. Period. When someone says the term real dad, I know they mean biological dad but as someone who was not raised by my biological dad, and someone who has a daughter that wasn't raised by her biological dad, the term real dad means something completely different. To me a real dad is one that is there every day, building a relationship and doing the hard work. One who is supportive and always there to pick up the pieces. One who provides what you need. One who has the hard discussions, who put puts his foot down when needed and is a soft place to land when that is needed.


This is what a real dad looks like. I could not have chosen a better man to demonstrate what my girls should look for in a husband. He is brilliant, hard working, funny, big hearted and most importantly he is completely dedicated to his family. He adores all three of his girls and takes such good care of us.


He is the minority in the sorority and he couldn't be happier about it. He has been lacrosse and soccer coach, teacher of chess, player of games, and wrestling partner. He has been the guest at many tea parties, played dolls and dress up. He stays calm during almost any situation and doesn't get ruffled by hormones or drama. He is the one you can count on to fall asleep during every movie.


He is our rock and I can't imagine our family without him. Thanks for being a real dad to our girls, my love.

15 comments:

  1. This was such a beautiful post, Jen. And I totally agree with you. Anyone can be a sperm donor, but not anyone can be DAD. You and your girls are blessed.

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  2. What a touching tribute to your husband and the father of your children. You really hit on what a "real" father is.

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  3. I agree with the 'real dad' concept and am happy for you and your girls that you found a great one!

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  4. Ahhh, the napping dad ;-) Lovely post Jen.

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  6. i so agree with you. we'll have to talk more, but ... yes. real "dads" are hard to find. so glad you have a winner.

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  7. What a beautiful post, Jen. You have it just right-a person can father or birth a child but it takes a real dad or mom to raise a family and love children unconditionally. It sounds like you all have it just right- xo Diana

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  8. As you know, I've been reading your blog since almost the beginning and I've always admired the relationship that your husband has with both of his girls. And, your girls are a testament to the wonderful real parents that they have.

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  9. this is a beautiful post Jen.

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  10. I totally agree! I gained a step-dad at the awkward age of 14. He was incredible and taught me that there are good men out there. When I went looking for a husband, it was my step dad's attributes I looked for. And I found him and we have been together for 36 years. :) Kit

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  11. Thank you for that wonderful post!

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  12. Thank you for that wonderful post!

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  13. Such a beautiful post! I agree...anyone can be a dad but it takes a special man to be a DAD...What lucky ladies the three of you are.

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  14. Couldn't have said it better! :)

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  15. Jen, what a Dad! Such a genuine and loving post melted my heart! Love,Lori

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